China is a very big country! Taking up a huge portion of Asia, it is home to nearly 1.4 billion people. From Shanghai on the East coast, the land stretches westward until, after approximately 4,000 kilometres, it meets the border with Tajikistan and Kyrgyzstan. From its far northern border with Russia to the southernmost city of Zhanjiang, the country stretches an almost equal distance of nearly 4,000 kilometres. To the south, China has borders with Vietnam, Laos, Myanmar, India, Bhutan and Nepal, while to the north the border meets Kazakhstan, Mongolia and Russia. The country’s east coast is bounded by the Yellow Sea, the East China Sea and the South China Sea, and is separated from Taiwan by the 150 kilometre-wide Taiwan Strait. China’s capital, Beijing (previously Peking), is situated inland, approximately 160 kilometres from the small and almost enclosed Gulf of Chihli.
Home to one of the world’s earliest civilisations and the teachings of Confucius, China was ruled by a system of hereditary dynasties, the first of which was the Xia Dynasty, which held sway from around 2070BC. The last imperial dynasty, the Qing Dynasty, ended in 1912 when the country became a Republic. This was to change due to the civil war of 1949, when the republic was defeated by the People’s Liberation Army, bringing Communism to the country and establishing it as the People’s Republic of China. Under the leadership of Chairman Mao the population virtually doubled, despite the deaths of an estimated 45 million from starvation, which came about as a result of social and economic reforms. Since new reforms were introduced in 1978, the country has become the world’s largest exporter of goods and enjoys one of the fastest-growing economies. Although the Constitution states that Chinese citizens are entitled to rights, including freedom of speech, freedom of the press, and the right to be given a fair trial, this is not actually the case. Political freedom and human rights are non-existent.
Unless you happen to belong to one of the world’s strict, uncompromising religions, this is a subject that shouldn’t cause any problems. Really? Yes, really! Despite the influence of movements such as Taoism, Buddhism and Confucianism, freedom of religion is guaranteed and, further, the People’s Republic of China is an atheistic state.
Being such a vast country, China is home to a complete set of natural variations, from towering mountains such as the Himalayas on the borders with India, Nepal and Bhutan, to a coastline which stretches for more than 4,000 kilometres, and mighty rivers such as the Yangtze (6,380 kilometres), the Hwang Ho (4,700 kilometres), and the Mekong (4,200 kilometres). More than 160 cities in this amazing country have populations greater than one million, and the number of these cities is presumed to increase by 40% within the next seven or eight years. So, with the country full of so many people, what about the beautiful Chinese women?
What are the stereotypes of women and girls from China?
Yes, yes, we understand that it’s very difficult to assess the stereotype of a nationality without actually visiting the country involved. Because of the country’s 4,000 year-old traditions and customs regarding women as the under-dogs of society, the Chinese view of the female’s role in life has been almost impossible to change. As a result, until a few decades ago, the idea of the slim, shy, demure Chinese girl would have been quite a good basis to work from. Now, however, the average female from this captivating country, especially from one of its hundreds of cities, is right up there and out front with womankind from most of the rest of the world. Well-educated and usually happily employed, the Chinese girl-about-town is well capable of looking after herself, her partner, and any children that might come from a stable relationship. Unfortunately, most Chinese citizens are able only to speak their own language! The only English they might know comes from pop songs or movies, and consists of no more than a few words or phrases. Of course, as with everything, there are exceptions. Your date might be a teacher of the English language, she might be a tour guide, a receptionist at an international hotel, an airline trolley-dolly, or perhaps she might even have had a relationship with someone from America or England! Yep, anything is possible. And then there is the intriguing notion that people who form an interracial relationship have to work harder at maintaining the status quo. This is certainly the case in incidents where partners take an active interest in one anothers traditions and habits. Because of the language barrier they have to be more attentive, considerate and patient, and obviously this can be a great asset to the bonding process.
Love and marriage and plastic surgery!
Because of sex-selective abortion and female infanticide, the ratio between males and females (117:100) is much higher than would normally be expected, and within the next three years it’s estimated that there will be 30 million more men than women living in China. Despite the ongoing inequality between the sexes, mainly because of the traditionally male-dominated society, the social status of women has significantly increased. In the cities, at least, young females are fully up-to-date with all the latest chic fashions and they know how to look their gorgeous best for any occasion. While marriage used to take the form of an organised contract between two families, the idea of a relationship based on love has become the norm, and there is now an enormous proliferation of Chinese-foreign marriages in mainland China. Because of the atheistic approach to religion, your road to romance and marriage should be a smooth journey. It is estimated than a high percentage (35%) of women suffer abusive domestic violence, and lack of concern has allowed this to continue. Since the 1980s, when grounds for divorce became more liberal, the number of couples seeking this way out of a marriage has steadily increased.
Chinese women are more and more being drawn to the idea of changing their physical appearance via the expertise of plastic surgeons, and it’s estimated that upwards of 2.5 billion dollars (US), are spent annually on this procedure. Their preference for a pure white, blemish-free skin, leads them not only to apply copious amounts of ‘whitening cream’ to their bodies but also to seek shelter from the sun: you will probably never encounter a sun-tanned woman from Beijing!
Are Chinese girls different to those from America or Europe?
Supposing that she wasn’t aborted because of her gender, or sold or starved shortly after birth, the average Chinese female, through her experiences of early childhood, will most probably have a different view on life compared to those born in other parts of the world. The one-child policy, together with the traditionally held belief that males are in every way superior, inevitably leads to a feeling of inadequacy among young Chinese women. After all, how does one cope with and rise above the suspicion that ‘Nobody wants me and I shouldn’t even exist.’ In general, there are two consequences resulting from this desperate start in life. The first is normally found in the exhibitionist type of woman, the female who considers herself as being special and therefore spends most of time with similar ‘beautiful’ people. But, because of her airs of superiority, she constantly discards suitors as being unworthy. Maintaining this show of perfection, she usually finds herself approaching the age of forty, still single and unattached. So now panic sets in and she settles for the best out of an imperfect bunch of male admirers. In later life, and especially after the menopause, this type of female quite often suffers from bouts of depression and prefers to live in the past, recalling her days of grace and beauty. The other consequence typically sees women hiding within their shell, withdrawn, shy and uncertain about themselves, especially when it comes to their looks and their place within the world at large. They will constantly seek attention from others, desperately wanting to feel needed and loved. However, due to their suspicious nature, they find it hard to trust anyone, disbelieving any positive remarks that might be attributed to them.
Are there any differences between Chinese and Japanese women?
Apart from the obvious, such as languages; mainland people and island people; and the strictures of a Communist regime as opposed to a free society; and the facetious differences, such as those that state that Chinese women are more financially-minded than their Japanese counterparts, the only noteworthy differences are those observed in characteristics and mannerisms. In general, people from the better social classes in almost every part of the world, tend to act in the same respectful manner. This is to say that they behave politely, they know how to dress and how to meet and greet one another, and how to welcome foreigners into their midst. Introductions are formal, via a firm handshake and a heart-warming smile, though the Japanese still tend to bow forwards when encountering others, especially at the first meeting. The Japanese are perhaps a little more dainty in their mannerisms and perhaps also a little more polite, especially on formal occasions. Bodily, Chinese and Japanese ladies are usually slim, slinky and small-boned, with similar skin textures. The Chinese, however, tend to have rounder, flatter faces than the Japanese, and their skin – when not whitened – is usually of a yellower pigmentation.
How to win the heart of a Chinese lady.
- It’s common for the man to lead the proceedings when suggesting a date. He should arrange the time and the place, and should see to it that the initial meeting occurs in a public location, such as a café or restaurant. And afterwards? This depends on how the encounter proceeds. A happy and successful meeting could be followed by a walk through the city streets or, depending on the weather, a stroll through a park. Again, if the first date concludes on a positive note, it’s usually up to the man to propose a second meeting.
- Dress smart, casual. While it may not be necessary to wear a suit and tie, your woman won’t be impressed if you turn up looking like a troll! Your date will look absolutely stunning, so don’t let her down by turning up in tatty clothes. And if you are the kind of guy who likes to wear after-shave or cologne, then use it sparingly. There’s nothing worse than an overpowering perfume!
- Be cool, kind and courteous. Remember the policy of chivalry and be sure to use it. Open the door and allow your gorgeous Chinese girl to pass through ahead of you. Pull the chair back for her and edge it forwards as she starts to sit down. Don’t cut into her conversation, whatever the topic. Even though she might be telling you about each and every member of her family, show interest! And don’t forget to ask interesting questions. This means that as well as listening to all she has to say, you’ll have to understand and remember everything.
- The Chinese are good natured and very hospitable, and will go out of their way in order to help a neighbour, a friend, or a member of the family.
- Argumentation is a wonderful thing, it’s the civilised way to sort out any lingering problems. But, remember, a woman is ALWAYS right – even when she’s wrong! Actually, this is something you should already know – it’s a pretty universal truth.
- Romance ain’t dead. Animalistic, chauvinistic and macho behaviour does not go down well in the eyes of the Chinese. Remember to be a gentleman – suave, sophisticated, even-tempered and in control. It’s okay to be affectionate, but not excessively so, it’s also okay to speak your mind so long as you do it without being aggressive.
Food, food, glorious food!
Chinese food is extremely yum yum. We all know this to be true as there can be few cities and towns throughout the world where it’s impossible to find a Chinese restaurant! And we all have our own favourite dishes from whichever of the eight main Chinese cuisines, such as the best known Cantonese and Sichuan. In the south, rice forms the staple diet, while the northern areas lean towards bread and noodles, although of course these ingredients overlap right across the country. The most popular meat in Chinese cooking happens to be pork, while chicken and duck – think crispy Peking duck, spring onions and plum sauce in paper-thin pancakes – are also firm favourites.
Because your partner will be the boss of everything that happens within the house, you’ll be sure of being well fed. From simple, every day cookery, to the rituals of a full-blown dinner for several guests, your beautiful Chinese girl will be hailed and fêted as a super chef.
How do I go about finding a Chinese woman?