Ethiopia is very old and once used to be the centre of the world, for it is from here that Homo sapiens migrated to the Middle East around 200,000 years ago. But the country actually dates back much further, somewhere around 4.2 million years, when Australopithecus roamed through the area. Yep, that old! But, you ask, where is it? Where is this land of Ethiopia?
Geographical and historical stuff:
Ethiopia is in Africa, with its eastern boundary meeting Somalia and butting into the region known as the Horn of Africa. To the south lies Kenya, while the western side of the country borders the Sudan. The country’s north meets Eritrea, which lies at the southwestern end of the Red Sea. The northeastern part of Ethiopia surrounds the small country of Djibouti, which lies at the point where the Red Sea meets the Gulf of Aden. As well as being pretty ancient, Ethiopia is also quite large, covering just over a million square kilometres, and is split through the centre by the Great Rift Valley, which reaches heights of more than 4,000 metres and divides the country into eastern and western highlands.
The Blue Nile river, which flows westwards to the Sudan border and then north to meet the White Nile at Khartoum, has its source in Lake T’ana, lying about 50 kilometres south of Gonder, one of Ethiopia’s other major cities. The country is famous for two important things. Firstly, this is where the coffee bean was invented, its first recorded use as a drink dating to approximately 1000AD, when it was referred to as buna by the Arabian philosopher and physician Avicenna. Secondly, Ethiopia is home to the hottest place on the planet – the Denakil Depresssion, which has an annual average temperature of around 35 degrees and is situated in the north eastern part of the nation. Oh yeah, the country also manages to provide the world with exceptionally good long-distance runners.
About the same size as France, Spain and Portugal thrown together, Ethiopia has a population of nearly 90 million, three-and-a-half million of whom live in the capital, Addis Ababa, which is located more or less slap bang in the centre of the country. Home to more than ten different ethnic groups, the country also features a diverse range of languages, while the most widely spoken foreign language happens to be English. Because of the wide variation of ethnicity, there is also quite a wide range of religions, though back in the fourth century Christianity was chosen as the official teaching. Nowadays, the country is split between two main religions – Christianity, which includes Ethiopian Orthodoxy, Protestant and Catholic faiths; and Islam, which is followed by about a third of the nation’s population. Although the country managed to evade coming under the aegis of colonial power in the 19th-century, it succumbed to a communist take-over in 1974, but reverted to democracy when communism became dysfunctional in 1989.
There is wide divergence between the quality of life in the major cities and life in the rural backwaters, although both communities suffer from a lack of clean water, little or no sanitation, and extreme poverty. In contrast to the countryside, where education is minimal, the urban population sees around 70% of children receiving a primary education, with about half this number continuing on to secondary school.
Ethiopia has the second largest population of African countries, so you can imagine that there will be lots of women looking for someone like YOU.
What to do and what to see:
Wow, there’s so much to attract your attention. Ethiopia is a fascinating land with all sorts of interesting places to visit, including a church carved out of rock in Lalibela, near Weldiya in Welo, and an obelisk in Aksum, in Tigray to the north, which is where the royal court was converted to Christianity in the early part of the 4th-century by Frumentius and his brother. If this isn’t your scene, how about an expedition to the Great Rift Valley, running north and south in the centre of the country, and the Denakil Depression in the northeast, but here you must be prepared to be hot!
However, if your only reason for coming to Ethiopia is to meet an attractive female, it’s probably best to stick to the cities, such as Addis Ababa, Adama, Mek’ele and Gonder, where the women are at one with the world and its modern life-styles.
Food and how to eat it:
In this country, people use their hands to lift the food to their mouths. Yep, it’s true! And it’s always the right hand that they use. It’s also quite normal to feed choice morsels to others within your group – again, using your right hand. Food normally arrives in the shape of a thick meat stew, with side dishes of vegetables planted on top of large flat pancakes made from sourdough. Don’t look too hard for pork or shellfish, though, because you won’t find them. Being a country which is strictly orthodox, Islamic and Jewish, these dishes are a definite no- no! And when the fasting season arrives, you’ll be unlikely to be offered any meat or dairy products.
Gender equality in Ethiopia:
As mentioned above there are major differences between life in the country and life in the cities, where women are better cared for when it comes to health care, education and employment. This is not unusual and is the norm for most African and Asian countries. While a few women may find employment in education or politics, the number is minimal, and most find work in hotels, bars and factories, where they receive less pay than men, despite being occupied at the same tasks. A high percentage of females (more than 85%), live in rural areas, where they work alongside men on the land, while also being responsible for looking after the home and the family. Burdened with a low socioeconomic status, women regularly suffer from domestic violence, indeed, Ethiopia is at the top of the list for this kind of abuse. Female genital mutilation is another barbaric attack against women and, although supposedly illegal, nearly 75% of the female population has suffered this immoral indignity.
In much the same way as in China, women face an enormous uphill struggle from the day they are born. Girls often receive no education because their parents are afraid they might get raped or kidnapped en route between home and school. They are also unable to choose their own husband, the selection is done for them. And should they have the misfortune to be raped, there will be no support to help them overcome the misery and rejection. In marriage, approximately 60% of women are subjected to sexual abuse.
The stereotypes of Ethiopian women:
Women and girls from this amazing nation are absolutely gorgeous. If you’ve seen a picture of an Ethiopian model, you’ll know this statement to be true. Dark-skin, wide-eyes, high cheek bones and slender, athletic bodies, place them in a very high category. Actually, the highest! They are also kind and compassionate, brilliant at looking after children, excellent cooks and meticulous when it comes to keeping the house in good shape.
Females from the bigger cities, such as Addis Ababa, Adama, Mek’ele and Gonder, take great care to appear tidy and feminine, and most wear just a tad of makeup, dress in colourful, trendy clothes, and yes, some even like to strut their funky stuff on high heels. Despite being unable to choose their partner, marriage forms the most common and most sought after type of relationship, a custom that comes from deep within the traditions of all Ethiopian families. And, when searching for a soulmate or a husband, these beautiful women are more than happy if this person turns out to be a foreigner.
If you are seriously interested in meeting and dating one of these stunning women, it will help you to be successful in your quest if you follow the following hints and tips.
- Family always comes first. Ethiopians like the idea of marriage and they seldom divorce, because this brings disgrace not only to the woman, but also to her family. Marriage is a very important step and, when children are involved, your beautiful wife will do her best to be a great mother, no matter what’s happening all around her. And talking about mothers, it’s essential to realise that your partner’s mum is number one – is, was, and always will be – so be nice to her at all times and your relationship will sail from strength to strength.
- Food is an important part of their life and their heritage, and establishes and maintains the bond between family and friends. The art of eating is a major social activity, and anyone entering an Ethiopian household will unfailingly receive a warm welcome and an offering of food and drink. But remember not to get bent out of shape if there doesn’t appear to be a knife and fork. Just go with the flow and eat with your hands – the right one!
- The people of this wonderful country are good natured and very hospitable, and will do everything possible to help a neighbour, a friend, or a member of the family.
- Good manners count for everything. But this little piece of information is good advice for everyone, no matter where they are. Always be polite and respectful. Open the door for your lady and allow her to pass through ahead of you. Pull the chair back for her and edge it forwards as she starts to sit down. Don’t cut into her conversation. Even though she might be telling you about each and every member of her family, show interest! Remember, the family always comes first (see above). Try to pay for everything – your beautiful princess will expect you to pay for coffee, drinks, dinner, taxi, cinema, theatre, and most anything else that comes your way.
- Men are the bosses! Here, unfortunately, there‘s no equality between the sexes, it‘s still a male dominated society and women are not treated with the same dignity as in the Western world. More often than not, a woman still has no choice as to whom she may date or to whom she will eventually be married. In fact, it’s possible that she’ll never be allowed to make decisions of any kind without prior approval from the man of the family. Before asking your beautiful Ethiopian woman out on a date, there‘s a high probability that you’ll have to seek permission from the family before you have any chance of dating their daughter.
- Remember their culture and their traditions. If you come from Europe or the USA, these will more than likely be very different to the customs you are used to. Though, of course, if you invite your date for a meal at your hotel, the food will probably arrive with knives and forks attached, so no need to worry!
So how do I dating Ethiopian women and girls?
Okay, so now we know all there is to know about these fantastic females, let’s think about the best way to get in touch with one of these charming singles.
Most commonly, meetings are left to the control of parents who, through wide circles of social contacts of the "right sort", organise and cultivate their sons and daughters into arranged marriages. However, meetings also occur as a result of community get togethers or through religious events, social occasions that are geared to garner friendships which, at some point in the future, could become a reason for dating. Today, however, and depending on the modernity of the family, Ethiopians are becoming more and more familiar with online dating, a form of social contact which is slowly but surely taking over from the more traditional methods of meeting someone.
Texting via SMS messages is also very popular, and year-on-year becoming more widespread. While texting may not always lead to a date, who knows what the future might hold? Rapid advances in technology and encroaching Western attitudes could lead to a totally different way of social networking. Like everyone else in the world, Ethiopian women and girls are proficient at using Google, posting videos and using social networks in order to form new contacts. Different to the typical Western woman, these ladies don’t rush into relationships, prefering to communicate via cool, calm conversation while searching for a serious life-partner. When they find what they’re looking for, they’re not usually too worried about the colour of skin.
However, when people from West, or anywhere else, would like to date a female from such an interesting country, they should understand that, although slightly more liberal than they were several years ago, women and girls from this country are still not as free and open as typical single women from Europe or America. Having strong family roots and traditions, their culture is quite different from the rest of the world, and one should take care when meeting a lady from this country. Do not be in a hurry to rush into a lascivious relationship, rather, take time to get to know the lady you’re interested in because she certainly will need time before even hinting that she might be interested in you.
However, when she is interested, she’ll be looking for and expecting a full time relationship, not just a casual fling. And you can be sure that your woman won’t sleep around, she won’t drink too much and she more than likely won’t smoke. Remember and try to understand the cultural differences, preferably before going out on your first date. Patience is a virtue, an especially important one when meeting someone from another ethnic group. Be open, be aware, be considerate and be happy; and, when you find your special dream girl, she will love you and stay with you and bring you all the pleasures that it’s possible to receive.
Of course, should you actually be visiting the country, your best bet is to mingle with the crowds in the cities, especially in the market places which seem to attract females of all ages. And, rather than approaching them yourself – which might seem a little unnatural, not to mention pretty difficult – let the beautiful women come to you. Yes, it’ll happen this way because they are naturally curious and eager to meet guys from another country, especially Europe and the West.
At any given moment there are literally thousands of people searching through these profiles, and it’s therefore very important for your profile to be created in such a way as to stand out from the rest and attract the attention of others. However, don’t write too much – no one wants to read an essay. A few lines should be enough, but make sure they are short and catchy, enough to tell the world who you are and what you want. You can also add a photo, or two.
Again, these should be the genuine article, not a photo-shopped version of a super hero. Remember, on the day of the BIG MEET your prospective partner will expect to see the same person they fell in love with when they read your dating site profile.