Located on the Pacific ‘Ring of Fire’ and often referred to as the ‘Land of the Rising Sun’, Japan consists of a group of islands on the western edge of the Pacific Ocean. Separated from South and North Korea by the Sea of Japan, and reaching northwards to the Russian island of Sakhalin, the largest Japanese islands are Hokkaido, Honshu, Shikoku and Kyushu, running north to south and south west. Approximately 80% of the country’s population of 127 million live on Honshu, the largest of the islands and home to the capital, Tokyo, and other major cities such as Kobe, Osaka and Nagoya. It is estimated that perhaps a quarter of Japan’s inhabitants live in Tokyo, with only about 10% living in rural areas.
Quickly recovering from almost total devastation during the Second World War, Japan today is a highly industrial country, with most if its inhabitants living in the coastal areas. Earthquakes are frequent, fortunately most of them weak, but most of the modern buildings are constructed to be able to withstand the occasional strong earthquake, such as the quake of 2011. While most of the population is not overly religious, the main beliefs are Shintoism and Buddhism.
Japanese culture and artistry is well-known and includes the beautifully designed gardens, the famous style of writing, the tea ceremonies, origami, and of course traditional Japanese clothing such as the kimono. In various establishments, such as teahouses and restaurants, the host or ‘geisha’ is well-versed in the art of socialising through skills that include dancing, playing musical-instruments, and friendly conversation. While the geisha will always be seen in a kimono, the average woman will only wear such traditional clothing at formal occasions, such as weddings.
What do Japanese women look like?
The big thing about Japanese women, and the Japanese in general, is their polite manner. Japanese girls are usually very attractive, tend to look young, are always well-dressed, and normally have beautiful, healthy-looking, long black hair. Unlike people from the West, the people of Japan don’t overeat, and the women are mostly slim and have clear blemish-free skin.
As with most women the world over, women from this country like spending time with their friends. They also enjoy a wide variety of sport, dancing and going to the cinema, and one of their favourite occupations is singing at a karaoke bar. When she is married, however, things change, and her most important task will be taking care of the family – this is something at which the Japanese excel. In this country politeness rules and is evident in the way they talk and communicate with one another. This is particularly true in the home, where the Japanese woman will unite with the opinion of her partner.
Over the past sixty years, the lifestyle in Japan has changed. Whereas it used to be traditional for the married Japanese woman to be a stay-at-home housewife, it’s now quite the done thing for her to seek further education at a prestige school or university, and go on to build a successful career.
Due to their inbred politeness, they are pretty good at hiding their emotions, even when they find themselves in a difficult situation or in the middle of a serious conversation with which they may not agree. To complain about something – anything – is frowned upon and considered impolite, and because of this it’s sometimes hard to get any feedback. However, this said, when you have dated and fallen in love with your sweet Japanese girl and want to build a serious relationship, it’s best to be open and honest and say what’s on your mind. But, remember, when in Japan you should always be polite!
The work ethic of Japanese men and women is to work hard, especially in the capital, which, in the New York City style, never sleeps. Coming from this background, your beautiful Japanese woman will expect you to have the same attitude. This is great, because if you happen to be a career-driven workaholic, your partner will absolutely accept the situation and give you all the support she can. The Japanese are also very family oriented, and it’ll be important for you to be accepted by your girl's parents. Therefore, once you begin to feel that things are going well between you and your woman, it’ll be a great idea to go to Japan and visit her and meet the family
Gender roles in a relationship with a Japanese girl
In the past, Japan was a country that traditionally believed in different roles for different genders. Neo-Confucianism defined all social roles in terms of hierarchical relationships; including the domination of men over women, when married, and the father was dominant over the children. And, outside the home, Japanese women were subordinate in nearly all legal, political and social contexts. Because of Shintō beliefs about ritual purity and pollution, girls were excluded from many aspects of ritual life. For example, they were not permitted to enter certain sacred spaces and, in some communities, were not allowed onboard fishing vessels. Sounds like a funny story? Maybe, but we all have our traditions and our strange beliefs, and it’s natural to come across different ways-of-life when we travel outside our own backyard. But, don’t panic. Over the past few decades, many of these rules, regulations, customs and prohibitions have been scrapped, although there still exists a law excluding women in Japan from sumo wrestling events!
However, Japanese women are still fairly submissive, and respect their menfolk – a trait that western men find very attractive when they start dating a girl from this amazing country. Many years ago the man of the house represented the family as far as the outside world was concerned, while his woman exercised overall control of what happened at home on a daily basis. Nowadays, especially when equipped with a good education, the sublime women of Japan will readily accept the values of an open western culture.
How to date a woman from Japan?
When dating a woman from Japan, you need to know that she will be looking for a good, kind, respectable man with whom to have a child at a later stage if all goes well. Japanese society accepts marriage as the normal way for people to live together, and while the single life is accepted for younger people, it’s not so well looked upon when the single person reaches middle age or more. These views come from a time when parents used to choose the best match for their daughter, but nowadays, especially with the advent of the internet, the world of dating is much more open.
Recent changes, such as advances in communication and social websites, have brought about a new era of freedom for Japanese people, and especially for Japanese women. And while it may be easy to find a beautiful, charming girl via a dating agency website, you’ll need to be able to offer more than just a nice smile. Free and single girls from Japan who are actively looking for a partner are looking for more than just a casual date. They are usually searching for a serious, well-informed, hard-working man who has good status and will therefore be on an equal footing with her own aspirations. Your Japanese date will be great fun to share precious moments with, smiles, laughter and friendly conversation. She will also be looking at what lies ahead – a strong, close relationship and a happy family
Along with Anime and Shinzo, the comic Manga is a much treasured article in the Japanese way-of-life, accounting for 40% of published material. And, when not busily reading these publications, the people of Japan love to visit all the beautiful places in their stunning country – revered temples and gardens, tea rooms and the snow-topped Mount Fuji. They also enjoy theatre, cinema and rock and classical concerts.
How do I get a Japanese woman to like me?
Hmm – good question, and not so easy to answer. Japanese girls know exactly what they’re looking for and what type of man they're interested in. It’s important to remember that she is not just out to have fun, but is serious about finding that one particular person with whom she can build a strong, happy relationship and with whom she can get married and have a family.
- You will need to prepare and post a great dating profile, which should include two or three tasteful photos of yourself. Think about wearing a shirt and tie, rather than the normal torn and tattered jeans and T.shirt. Casual clothes are also okay, so long as they are clean and fairly smart.
- Your smile should be genuine – not a pasted-on, photo-shopped variation of an advert for toothpaste. You may not be a Clooney look-alike, but this is not important. The thing that matters most is your attitude and your ability to be genuine; so make sure the photos you post are real and untouched.
- Write about yourself, your job, social status, your home and your interests, but write the truth, using nice, polite words. Lying won’t help you, the girl you want to impress will discover the truth when you meet!
- Specify your height and weight, remembering to be accurate because at a later stage you will hopefully go to meet your contact. So, don’t hide the truth. Basically, this means that if you have stated that you are six feet tall, your date will expect you to be six feet tall! Lies can only lead to the end of what could have been a beautiful love story. When starting a new relationship, be honest and polite, in the same manner as people from Eastern cultures such as Japanese, Chinese or Indian.
- Write about your hopes and ideas for the future, and about what is important for you in a relationship.
- If she asks for your email address, give her the one you use every day so that she can quickly reply.
When seeking to win the heart of a Japanese woman, it’s important to be polite. And, should you have something negative to say, work out the best way to say what you really mean. While it can sometimes be quite difficult for people from different cultures, such as those found in Canada, the United States or the UK, to meet and mingle with people from the far east, remember that politeness is all important. As we said at the beginning, we are all different and have our own traditions and our strange beliefs, and it’s natural to come across different ways-of-life when we travel outside our own territory. However, if you stick to the basic rules and portray yourself in a genuine manner, you will get to meet a wonderful, respectful, loyal lady
Unsure about Japanese women? Never mind, you can meet people from other cultures. For example, girls from India, Israel, Russia, Latvia, Thailand, Korea or females from any of the countries of the Middle East.