Thailand, previously known as Siam, is a beautiful Asian country bordering Myanmar to the north and to the west, Laos to the north and the east, Cambodia to the southeast, and, at the foot of the Malay Peninsula, Malaysia. Thailand is a large country, covering around 514,000 square kilometres, and measuring approximately 1,800 kilometres from north to south. At its broadest, the country is nearly 900 kilometres wide and the lengthy coastline features endless beautiful beaches and holiday resorts, such as Phuket on the western coast bordering the Andaman Sea.
What is there to know about Thailand?
The mighty Mekong River, which flows from China in the north down to southern Vietnam, forms a natural border with Laos, almost 700 kilometres long. Due to its location, the country enjoys long spells of warm weather, with the temperature usually between 35 and 40 degrees centigrade from March to May. Again, because of its position, there is a lot of rain, averaging about 55 inches per year, most of it falling during the monsoon season which lasts from May to September, the wettest months being August and September. Just over a quarter of Thailand’s land mass is given over to arable agriculture, rice being the country’s most important crop – indeed, Thailand used to be the world’s greatest exporter of rice. Because of this, you could well imagine that the staple diet of Thailand would be rice. And you would be correct. However, once you have your bowl of rice there are many tempting additions you can choose from, including chicken, fish, beef and pork, and a wide variety of vegetables. All these side dishes revolve around five basic tastes – sweet and sour, bitter, salty, and of course spicy.
Thais have a deep belief in folk-lore, nature and house-hold spirits, which stems from their traditional religion based on Buddhism and Hinduism. They are also happy and respectful towards one another, greeting everyone with a slight tilting forward of the head and holding their hands pressed together, fingers pointing skywards as though in prayer.
The capital, Krung Thep (Bangkok), with a population of around 6.5 million, is situated near the mouth of the River Chao Phraya, close to the coast at the head of the Gulf of Thailand. While the beautiful beaches and islands of the south are typical tourist destinations, the city of Bangkok is perhaps the main focal point for visitors to this fantastic country. With its many street markets, and also a few floating markets, one can purchase almost anything, from mass-produced, fake watches, handbags and sunglasses to souvenirs and bric-a-brac. One must also mention sex tourism, which accounts for about 4% of the Thai economy, along with the ever-increasing interest in the medical industry of sex-reassignment, whereby boys become girls and vice-versa. So, talking about boys and girls, what about the beautiful ladies of Thailand?
The stereotypes of Thai women:
Typically slim, petite, dark-haired and fairly dark-skinned, the Thai ladies are gorgeous. Unfortunately, due to the heavily-advertised sex-industry, the female population of Thailand has been tarred with the same tawdry brush. But, in reality, this is not so – most women are very modest, and intimacy is treated in a private, discreet manner. With Thai culture being greatly influenced by that of India, China and much of southeast Asia, the Thais tend to be very polite, gracious, family-oriented people.
With the country being a blend of city and glorious beaches, there are basically two different types of Thai girl: the well-educated, well-dressed, street-wise urban woman, and the sun-kissed Lolita stepping out of an azure sea. However, all Thais have one thing in common – serenity. Arguments, although rare, seldom get out of hand, and more often than not end with both participants agreeing that the matter was relatively unimportant.
As with any Western city, the women of Bangkok know how to look after themselves. Healthy diets, based on rice and vegetables, ensure they have a clear, blemish-free complexion, slim figure and a radiant, positive nature. Smiling is natural and comes easily, as does their good-natured way of accepting friends and visitors into their world. Because of their naturally fine skin and healthy tones, the women of Thailand don’t wear much make-up, maybe just a hint if they are going out for an evening rendezvous. They also know how to dress to maximum effect, so that they look stunning for any type of occasion, formal, informal or otherwise.
However, there is also the problem of Westernisation and the increasing popularity of changing the colour of one’s skin. Almost everywhere you go in this fascinating country, you will see huge billboard advertisements for skin whiteners. In common with many other Asian countries, the women of Thailand wish to appear more Western. More than 50% of women between the ages of 20 and 35, regularly apply some form of whitening agent to their beautiful dark complexions. Boys too! It’s a metrosexual thing. It’s the same old question of wanting to be something that we are not. Westerners spend long hours in beauty parlours, frantically sunning themselves under large lamps in an effort to look exotic, while our cousins in the East smother themselves in creams and lotions in order to become more Westernised. Who said the world was crazy?
Love and marriage with Thailand women:
Thais are very serious about their relationships and see it as a direct track to marriage. Nowadays, most marriages take place via two ceremonies, one religious and one that has more emphasis on the families of the bride and groom. It’s quite likely that the happy couple will encompass a visit to a Buddhist temple, where they will seek a blessing from the monks. During this traditional ceremony, which can occur before or after the actual wedding service, prayers will be recited and gifts will be presented to the members of the temple. The non-religious or secular part of the joining together is sometimes performed on a day separate to the visit to the temple, and follows the same type of pattern as most marriage ceremonies, including the exchanging of vows, the giving of rings, and the wedding feast.
How do I win the heart of a Thai girl?
- First of all you should acquaint yourself with the traditional method of greeting someone, as mentioned above. While a Thai woman won’t necessarily expect someone from the West to know all about their culture, it certainly won’t harm your reputation or your chances if you try to assimilate to some of their customs. It’s also good to understand that they venerate their elders, so if you are introduced to your date’s family, be sure to be polite and show respect. Likewise, remember to remove your shoes before stepping into the house or apartment, even in the unlikely event that your host tells you it’s not important. Good manners and a high regard of customary principles will stand you in good stead.
- As in most countries, it is up to the male to make the initial step. Therefore, whether you meet in a bar or coffee shop, or whether you meet via the Internet, it is up to you to propose a date.
- Be sure to choose sensible clothes for the occasion. Thai ladies are smart and know how to dress in order to accentuate their natural beauty, and will expect their date to take care of himself when it comes to apparel and personal hygiene.
- Remember the Thai code of politeness and respect. If you tend to be a tad temperamental, keep it under control. This should be an easy matter since you should naturally be in a positive, happy mood when meeting your contact face-to-face for the first time. Aggression doesn’t exist in this peaceful country, and loud, noisy, extrovert behaviour is definitely frowned upon.
- Thailand unfortunately has quite a problem with drug and alcohol abuse. So, if this is your bag, leave it behind, because your date will be observing you closely in order to monitor your behaviour and your social responsibilities. Always keep in mind the peaceful attitude of the Thai people, their respect for fellow human beings and their dislike of disruptive behaviour.
- Stay cool, calm and collected, observe traditions and be polite. Remember chivalry? Then be sure to use it. Open the door for your woman and allow her to pass through ahead of you. Pull the chair back for her and edge it forwards as she starts to sit down. Don’t cut into her conversation. Even though she might be telling you about each and every member of her family, show interest!
How do I get my Thai princess to like me?
- Start by following all the above advice!
- Don’t be pushy. If you fall head over heels in love at the first date – GREAT – but don’t expect her immediately to fall at your feet. Thai females like to take things slowly and get to know exactly who it is they’re dating before they let things progress too far. Even if she happens to think you are the greatest thing since sliced-bread, she’s going to maintain a clear head and keep her thoughts to herself.
- Tempus fugit! Yep, in the same manner as the Germans, Thais tend to be obsessive about punctuality. If you suggest meeting at a certain time, make an effort to be there at that time, even a few minutes early! In the same way that they frown upon anti-social behaviour, they will also get upset if you are unable to organise yourself so as to be on time.
- Conversation is great, it oils the world and keeps it spinning! But just as there are certain types of behaviour that are beyond the pale, there are certain subjects that should not be referred to in polite circles. Here, in Thailand, when in public or when conversing with someone with whom you’re not familiar, don’t bring up the topic of sex, it’s a definite no-no.
- So there you are, sitting in the presence of the girl of your dreams, totally captivated and reeling under the spell of her radiant charm and beauty. And now you’ll have to gain her trust by letting her understand that you also appreciate all the other stuff – the way she talks, her ability to speak English, the way she’s happy to talk about worldly subjects, the beauty of her country and its interesting customs and traditions. She’ll be focused on finding out if it’s only her beauty that attracts you. So, don’t rush into things. Let nature take its own sweet, natural course, and if she’s interested after your first tentative communications, she’ll be sure to let you know. Take it easy and take it slowly, get to know your lady as a nice soul mate and in time you’ll be able to decide if she’s the right angel for a permanent relationship.
It all sounds fantastic, so how do I contact a woman from Thailand?